THE CONFESSION OF A MEAN ADULT

One adult confessed to me like this.. Most adults are mean as they lose innocence and they want to dominate. They preach more than they practise. Their meanness is often shown on the children either directly or clandestinely or it’s implied many times. I know of adults who have never done any better than their child in the school but do not want to understand when child wants to speak the difficulty about something. The adults like me are so biased that, they always think their children are not helpful to adults and feel that children only go with the sway of the current trend. This is the insensitivity of most adults.

The worst part is that adults like me think that we know everything and children need to catch so much about living life. Forget preaching, even the interference is little too much, almost at the cost of not recognizing them as individuals.

One such occasion where, the head hung in shame and left a deep regret was experienced. My daughter has myopia and we took the spectacles and they are one of the best and expensive. The lenses are of high quality and it takes time for making and all that is the fact. We went and collected the specks and things seemed ok until my daughter called me at around 11 pm and said the specks are missing. 

Immediately the adult in me got intolerant and furious. How can you be so irresponsible? I know you are so careless and you don’t live at that moment? Do you know how difficult it is going to be, to you? It is also painful to go again and forget the waste of money which is there but on the last in the list. Blah blah and blah.

My god, what is left to be said? The kid gets upset as she is already feeling guilty and it is sheer lack of grace on part of adult in failing to understand that the error could happen anywhere. The adult checks the car and does not find the specks. He is convinced that, the kid has left it either with the optical store or dropped it somewhere.

Next morning, some feeble consolation is given and the daughter requests the adult to search again in the car and the adult is arrogant and denies the possibility. One more request and with reluctance he starts and is shocked to find the specks in the car, albeit got lost in car ambience and colour. All the indifference , all the intolerance and all the arrogance of the adult is seen in him.

The mean adult here, if you have not already guessed is Sai Prasad and graceful, understanding, patient daughter is Grusha. Yes, the realization happened about the meanness and the need to be more tolerant and graceful. But why? I was like a typical adult who lost the innocence. Its time, the understanding and sensitivity for this generation who are increases as they are going thru tremendous stress for career, money, adjustments, societal systems and so much more. Adults like me.. are u listening ?i apologize to grusha again and to all the kids with whom i was insensitive,in the name of understanding and doing good.