ANGER ... NOT AGAIN PLEASE

When it comes to anger, very rarely people admit that they are angry. Even if we agree, then we restrict the same to 1) Angry with someone 2) Angry about something 3) Angry because of so and so... But understanding anger has to be different. All goodness and all spirituality preach anger as the second most important vice that has to be overcome. The first obviously is the lust/ sex of the immoral kind.

Conquering anger is like conquering the self. It is very difficult but not impossible. Several dimensions are attached to the concept of the anger. The most important is the attachment to the self. Once the “ I  “becomes important,  then the concept of anger starts becoming prominent. But how many can remove the “ I “ from our lives and still live gracefully. The consciousness of the self makes us focus so much on ourselves that; anger comes as by product and as a side effect. Most often we justify the anger or at least quantify the anger, saying that i am less angry than the other. 

There is another argument, that unless the anger is shown, people do not listen and obey. Anger is treated as birth right for people to dominate on others. It is mostly accepted if the husband shows anger on the wife, if the boss spits anger on his subordinates, if the police do the same on the accused. Hence in all situations, anger is taken as the privilege of the dominant. In fact people who want to dominate feel in secure from within and they are less confident. Hence anger is not the acceptable virtue by any standards.

People take time to get rid of anger. They say, i am less angry these days. How does degree justify the anger? It is in fact ridiculous. Anger is always avoidable as nothing good ever came out of anger. The least anyone can do is to acknowledge that they are angry and they are making attempts to come out of it. All scriptures address the issue of anger and several examples are given on how the anger has ruined families, communities and countries. There are also solutions to overcome anger.

For me, after all the learning from all sources and life experiences, anger is something that can be got rid, if one focuses on the self. Again, attitude of let go, detachment will alone help people to conquer anger. If the meaning of existence is understood, if concepts like success and failures are understood, if there is gratitude for everything that benefits us there is no place for anger.

Today i have understood anger in terms of energy barometer. Just think about this. We get angry only if our energies are low. The same situation where you are angry now, was ok some other time, only because your energy levels are far better. How are we able to forgive people or let them off? It is because we are either in a happy state or this one is of lesser priority. In all these cases, it is higher energy is us which is making us tolerate. The son puts up with his old parents better on a day he office life was better. A wife is able to give good attention to her husband when she does not have issues with her mother in law. Again these are the situations when the energy is good.

SO what is happening? We are either engaging ourselves in more than what our energy permits or we are not able to build enough energies inside us. Why do we do more than what we can? Again because we want to have the power to dominate or we are greedy. Hence we lose the tolerance. The name of the game is contentment. If we lack energies, why don’t we do anything that suits us to keep charging? Be it Meditation, yoga, walking, exercise, or whatever suits, one needs to gather, strengthen energies and keep building the stock. Why do people who have ill health are more prone to anger? They have less energy.

So , Next time you get angry, think that your energies levels are low. Instantly, go silent, do not try to prove or justify you are right and do something to gain energy. Then face the same situation and you will feel better. Not even the police will deny you the little time that will help you gain energy. But if someone has better understanding of the anger and the management of it, that can also be practised but NO ANGER AGAIN PLEASE/