Life in the last few months has been
differently tough; riddled with many issues which bring in several questions,
for which there will never be a concrete answer. But, hopefully, i think i have
gained in terms of learning to understand life little better and accept several
intricate realities of life. My professor in MA sociology at UOH, Mr
Imadi, used to say, great men are
product of crisis and he quoted several instances of how all great people in
history had crisis of some kind, be in family, finance, or recognition .
But
in today’s world, crisis is not making people great as they seem to be part of
everyone’s life, occurring too often and so no time to handle crisis, enough to
make people great. I have no intension of becoming great and want just to be
able to manage the self and be useful to people. I was just wondering how each
person in life handles the crisis that comes in their lives.
Probably
few turn poetic, by looking inwards and come up with good works of art form.
Few people might actually take to wrong path and get into bad habits. Many will
show frustration on others and this will have indirect bearing on other living
or on people working with them. Some might get into reading, some may write books, some turn
spiritual, (loose word i know) , some just ignore and most compromise as the
way of life is marked by this reality in general. I can definitely not cover
all the ways that people handle the crisis. I would be glad to know how people
handle crisis, in all seriousness.
I
get into thinking and not in isolation as i bring in all the learning of the
past wisdom, books, people’s help and trusted objective analysis of the entire
situation. But still, most of it is not enough as one has to live with the pain
and helplessness with total freshness. Pain is a not a commodity which u can
save for benefit and each time it is different. But i am going to write the
crux in next 2 paragraphs and with brevity on why i set to write this abstract
sounding piece.
I
have realized, and can confidently say that its, “once again,” that, most of
what we know does not come handy as immediately useful, say like an injection
to a disease. All our knowing and understanding probably works like a homeo or
ayurvedic medicine where, the problem is treated at the base level and hence
takes time to route it out of system. But the belief system is very important,
in what is administered and need for knowledge also to enjoy and experience the
benefit.
Let
me hit straight to the issue.... I knew that expectation in any thing is the
root cause of all problems. But yet, it did not help me from avoiding the pain
and anguish. I had learnt and implemented that, good things when done by us,
need not do good back to us, the way we want and expect it to happen. But , the
learning doesn’t come handy when needed most. Last week, on 2 issues, i felt
very strongly that, i just did 2 actions, totally and absolutely good from any
angle or perspective. But the results were pretty bad and left me deeply hurt.
I now realize that, the hurt is not
about the issue, not people but , MYSELF as i i had expectations from good actions that i
did .. All good actions if they are good will have its own good effect, if the
good actions sustain forever. One cannot get hurt on the good action done,
expecting some result. Good is nature’s property and we are just instruments of
it. What good can do , will do, should not be our botheration. Lemme give an
example which i told grusha ..
A
guy is knocking at my door and cries saying he is very hungry and hasn’t eaten
food since 2 days. I show mercy and give him 100 rupees and ask him to eat some
food. Now, without my knowledge, i am expecting some acknowledgment from him,
in terms of thanks, or praise before someone or something else. He does not do any of those. Then i keep a watch
on him and he is just buying some liquor and drinking gloriously with a pride.
I get hurt thinking he cheated me saying he is hungry but he is actually
wanting to indulge.. Now what do i do ? Become cynical and not trust people? Or
ignore the incident or stop doing “good”. None of this applies. Here i would
like to conclude by referring to bhagwad gita and newton..
1)
Just keep doing actions and mostly
what is good for general good without motive or eye on results. All of us know
this from ages but unable to apply.. but we have no choice but keep
understanding and implementing this again. Nature knows and will take of what
should come out of the good done by you
as it has the huge task of general good, thru which all of us all benefit
individually. Hence our good deed becomes an ingredient to nature and not a
product. Hence , let this be beneficial to nature for general good.
2)
Newton’s third law of motion is not
relevant in equal measure in all situations. Either they work on long term
basis( unlike the original theory) in
some instances or the way it works need not always be equal and opposite. Even
terms like equal and opposite have become relative. Is not Einstein more
relevant , hence ??
In
summary, good has to be done and only good has to be done and when you do
actions, just do it without any expectations as the demand that each of us
have, may be, is far lesser than what nature wants to give us at a particular
point of time. May be we need bhendi curry and we demand chicken? Let us not
confuse the nature with our demands.
There is a design of divinity and each of
us are part of that scheme. This is difficult to follow but i am doing it and
so everyone can do it .. yes in all sincerity ..... Just act and leave
everything to nature. Before acting on something , just pause and think, if its
doing harm to someone directly or indirectly. Then do not do it consciously and
if your conscience is clear , act and leave the result to nature .
Thanks
for reading this as you participated in my peace and discovery one more time in
life.
