NO BODY WANTS TO HURT ANYONE

                      Read this only if you can complete this....

                          ( no body wants to hurt anyone )

                           

 

I am not sure if a stranger can hurt us .. Strangers can inconvenience us or at worst will trouble or not help us out if required . But only the known and the loved ones can hurt us. Isn’t this a very big contradiction that loved ones can hurt us  ? Actually no one hurts us without our own permission.. so says , sister shivani of BK  & Sujatha potay and i completely endorse with them.. But we then get hurt often and that leads to chaos  in life, total negativity and affects all around us and all about us . I thought about the enemy HURT in some detail and what i arrived at,  is useful for me and so sharing in this space. This may benefit you too, not because u did not think before on these or not that u do not know. But reading the known also might help just like writing what i know might help me.

 If a relationship hurts, or someone u think is hurting you, or they say you are hurting them.. and if this happens constantly, then there is something fundamentally wrong.. This needs to be addressed in terms of  A) Honesty in the feelings  2) Trust in the relationship 3) if its not spousal relationship , what is the meaning and purpose of this relationship....  All of these needs time , commitment and basic human respect  to sit and analyse amongst you.  If there is no time, respect  or need to sit down and discuss, there is no need for the relationship to continue either. Pretensions of goodness, false adoption of values,  humoungous self pity will result in the absence of discussions of the matured kind.

                           

                                

Salute those who have the audacity to take the initiative of the break up or wanting a solution rather than respecting the timid, evasive and escapist kinds. I have no qualms in admitting that i was in the later category and i am yet to come to the first catefory.  But i appreciate and respect the loudness in a relationship rather than the hiding subtlety of the emotions .

Silence can be beautiful and most blissful between 2 people but the absence of  vibes of understanding and tolerance of mere existence can be most killing and more painful than the death. I am always remembering the song “ got to believe in magic , tell me how 2 people find each other in a world full of strangers” listen to this and enjoy...  Magic brings 2 people together and how does and why does that magic wane ? Communication is the key ... Verbal and non verbal.  Verbal communication needs openness, guts, willingness and just, simple ice break attitiude ..  Non verbal requires complete honesty, unconditionality, trust..

 This combination of communication will eliminate the hurt. Finally any love , respect  is meant to let the other person live happily and peacfully .. So where is the hurt coming from ? just see inside and let the silence inside speak to you... The hurt is you and you hurt.. correct the self and break all shackles of self imposed walls, ideas , thoughts, values and fundas... I am attempting.. Writing this is sending this to the universe and to people who read and matter and so its the COMMITMENT ...  not a gyan  

The beautiful life has no place for hurt. Know the hurt, address and control, alt delete from the system as soul can't carry hurt as its too heavy 

FEW TIPS THAT I LEARNT

Was wanting to express to people who read my blog in this space . But thanks to Grusha and few of my friends, i did not want to write a blog on what might sound preachy or heavy .. Humour or good unknown wonders is the best piece to write to make people read.. But for one u need to have an attitude and habit, ie for humour and for the another u need to be a good student of life and be knowledgeable .. But i still wanted to write ..

Today i opened windows of my room in the office and invited fresh air and light .. So i not only saved power for the country but also some money for the organization .,.. In the bargain i enjoyed watching rains . Not the ideal sight but enough trees are visible .. Lovely to watch rains and feel the breeze..

Then i learnt the art of what a good teaching and teacher can be in 2 situations .  MEK where i learnt from Arjun the colleague from Big Synergy on how to groom younger people and also teach the learned with humility   Second situation was when the children ( adults to be honest) were learning dancing from Mr Giri and team from G and G dance academy .. Those choreographers were teaching them just for passion and not for money or recognition .. I learnt about lots of attitudinal issues looking at them.

Hopefully because of the above 2, i became a reasonably good teacher of driving for grusha as i allowed her to even drive in busy koti and chaderghat without yelling at her ..  I learnt that teaching involves being a good student . hats off to all teachers in all fields ..

Being able to be tolerant is listening to people and just being with them. This improves efficiency in work place.  Thanks to my colleague Raghu for correcting me on handling team on motivation.

Overall , learning is slowing down the pace of life and inviting more space for many things.  I am enjoying this. Switching off mobile in theatres is lot of fun too ..

Many tips and more fun.  Ha ha ha 

GOOD CINEMA ... Anamika the name is success

 

Any appreciation and criticism of art work has hidden in it, the biases, prejudices and variety of hang-ups.. This is my experience in general and all the time the effort is to overcome these qualities and indulge in the experience of any art form. This is what the matured mind is expected of , or at least that is what i want to believe.  When it came to Anamika, several of such things were operating ... remake? Story based?  Onetime watch?  Vidya balan? Telugu space? Etc etc .. So inherently the expectation was set in my mind like most people. At best it can be a multiplex movie, is what people talked about..  So is multiplex supposed to be good? Intellectual? not mass? 

So where is the concept of good cinema in all that? Where is the mention on engagement as a cinema?  In one sentence, one should give totally to the belief and conviction of shekar kammula . He has proved how a well made movie can be decent, bereft of violence, engaging, entertaining without going for a formula of a commercial movie. There is no criticism of popular or commercial movies here.. One need not put down something to highlight something else.  Hence let me talk only about this movie, elucidating the genuine experience i had despite the bias mind and preset notions. 

First day movie is hurriedly reviewed and talked about. We heard phrases like “ mixed talk “ divided talk ,  Mass will not like, not a B and C center movie etc.. I thought let me give it a try and watch this movie. I took Babji my colleague and friend whose taste and likes i value.. We watched and started comparing, talking and trying to find faults. All this ended after the first initial few minutes and i got engrossed into the movie like any good movie would make me do. 

The narration was simple, uncomplicated and the flow was easy and optimum. Nowhere was it overdone or stretched.  At Places, there would be a temptation to go slightly overboard but shekar resisted all temptations. He did not do anything to play up to the gallery. He just believed and made a good film which can be watched with the entire family without feeling embarrassed for a minute. 

The movie is subtle, absorbing, entertaining and will leave you with a feeling of having spent good time watching a good movie.  The casting is almost perfect and few good surprises in Vaibhav,  Khan the inspector , and hotel owner etc. But Its Nayantara all the way. She has simply excelled in her acting. People who are interested in comparisons, she has done a more marvellous job than Vidya balan.  For vidya the role is not difficult as she essayed several such roles.  But for nayan and especially in a context like this, it is most difficult and she just portrayed a splendid performance.  Nayantara has silenced critics about comparing her to vidya.  Her expressions, vulnerability in scenes, boldness at places, looks; grace in presence is all there to be appreciated.  

 One should not miss appreciating Sunitha for her fabulous dubbing.  These 2( nayan and sunitha)  are a deadly combination and we have seen that in Simha, Ramarajyam and now in Anamika. The maturity, the emotion, the grace, the diction, pronunciation,  and the sweetness in language is the hall mark of her voice and she has enhanced the overall calibre of the character of anamika..  Sunitha has reflected once again the mastery of her calibre in voice culture.

One of the big plus of the movie is the fantabulous back ground score of Keeravani garu.  This is what has enhanced most scenes and all emotions. The score seems, it’s there and not there. It is enough at places and more intense at several other places.  Eega, Rajanna and now Anamika has taken BG to a new high,  where i feel keerawani has given a refreshing back ground score which is so rich and absorbing. The song Kshana kshanam wonderfully rendered by sunitha lingers on and is utilised beautifully in the movie. 

When technology gives access to the entire life and realities across nations and fields, we talk about inspiration, adaptation, lift, copy, plagiarism etc and some we accept and some we reject. But here is the one which is honest and is a remake and done beautifully.  I appreciate shekar’s belief, guts and conviction and journey must have been difficult owing to comparisons and intensions. His intent of giving a good movie to telugu audience has fructified .

But the fact that he churned out a good product is a testimony of his knowledge of film making and storytelling. It does not matter if you know the story, if you already seen the “original” .. If you care for a good movie , just go and watch and you will love nayantara, music, narration and decency of the movie .. my vote is clean majority and never believed in grades of the website kinds .

The ending says, Animaka is nameless and faceless.  I say its name is success and is face saving movie for all the crew and technicians. Hats off