GOLDEN RULES FOR FORTY PLUS

Every age that people are passing by seems more crucial and the best, that any human can experience. Or sometimes it is the age that is to come by or age that is gone by, which looks exciting. For people born in 60’s and early 70’s, their age in teen’s and youth seemed most exciting and happening as 3 crucial inventions took off big time. They witnessed the coming of Television, Mobile phones and internet as this changed the entire complexion of the world.

But the same generation did not have guts to look at the opposite sex nor behave maturely or decently and at best they were shy and withdrawn. There were taboo, and cultural hang-ups etc. For me i hadto find reasons and excuses to even talk to a girl class mate, even in10^th class. I would talk about homework or notes or some doubt and that too would be looked at suspiciously.  People like SVS wouldn’t even dare to look at them, but would read readers digest health book to know human body etc.  There are hundreds of instances to reflect on the shy, cute, silly generation which also was inimitably fantastic in thousand ways. THIS IS NOT THE SCOPE OF THIS WRITE UP.

I Remember quite vividly the song “ jab hum jawaan hongey” from Betaab and wondered how could children who have not attained puberty know about what’s going to happen. I realised that, the song was for generation next like the current ones. SO there are shocks, there are lagging behinds in each generation. But going forward, this generation of late 60’s and early’s 70’s cannot make mistakes for their future life and so here are my GOLDEN RULES FOR ALL OF US. This will make them less insecure and more at peace with the self 

1)   Do everything and anything to reduce the paunch and after this, expect not to be recognized by the opposite sex for all the hardships you did to keep fit.  Meaning... you got to do for yourself now so that you can bend forward and backward in 50’s and 60’s to do your own work. No excuses for inviting bad health or perpetuating the one you are already facing. Do not expect anyone to help you out. Everyone hates a crying baby, except mothers who at least get  only tired with crying babies.

2)   STOP expecting people to listen to you, especially your family and children. NO fundas, no gyan and if possible always be humorous as you will gain popularity.

3)   Be always ready to listen and expect people not to talk to you also, unless they have boring stuff to narrate and you are showing keenness to listen

4)   DO not get used to news channels and bhakti channels and in fact avoid all television as you will not like people and people will not like you after a point if you are hooked to TV.

5)   Have something to do on your own for 4 to 5 hours a day without depending on anyone.

6)   Be updated technologically and keep connected with what new generation likes and dislikes. Mind you, generation is not 20 years now and its only 5 years as of now, when i am posting this. You need to be accepted by 10 years of today also.

7)   You got to always keep smiling and not crib and complain. Or else this will keep people off. So think beyond you and only think above you.

8)   Stop ogling at women and girls as this is dirtiest , filthiest habit and law can get better and better and you don’t want to CHAKKI PISSING  when you are in  your 50’s.

9)   Be philosophical and spiritual in practise only and for yourself that too and do not rub, influence and preach anyone especially the children.

10)                   Have enough money for the family requirement and do not pile on the family for your needs.


Life is ridden with multiple crisis's of all kinds. You will feel ignored, your body & mind has disconnect. Probably the aging is playing on your mind. You almost lost the prime of youth and not old enough to accept that you cant be doing several things, including romance.  There is a danger that, you will end up talking to most people complaining about something of the self or others. You will build up a habit of sharing sob stories, feelings of hurt, regret, guilt etc. Trust barring one or two, no one wants to listen to pain, hurt and sad. Some of them want to listen but they themselves have so much in their plate. So not many people to listen and the only way to make them listen is talk good, talk lighter and talk useful and lace it with your issues with poignancy than obvious. 

In nut shell, There is no choice but have best health, best attitude and best approach and let people depend on you and not you on people for anything .. This is the way to be happy from mid fifty onwards. ON a serious note, one has to prepare themselves for the old age and this is the time for the 40’s age group to do so. This is the biggest investment we can make for the people we care.People in 50’s can still do all this but for them these will be silver rules only as they have lost time by watching too much of news channels and bhakti channels already.

Broadly only 2 rules....  1) Have integration and sync of what u think, to what you speak and what you do 2) know what inside you gets you recurring happiness and just build that. Do not depend, even on inanimate things. BE BINDAAS. Have an attitude of an hyderabadi of yester years.. hey mia kuch chai biskut aur paan vaan hojaaye... kya bolte tum logaa.. Have a friends club of your teen age group and retire in the same locality.