WORDS , EMOTIONS, MEANINGS, REALITY AND LIFE

From quite some time i was thinking of few concepts / words/ meanings that are affecting most of us in this life.  Basically, not having privileges, not achieving wanted things, not being important/ powerful are broadly the key issues that affect us all and we can all derive several situations, realities , meanings out of the above few things stated. But what makes people totally impoverished of the essence of good living according to me are 1) Dishonesty to oneself 2) Contradictions 3) comparisons 4) Loss of self..  and compromises to get meet the peripheral needs of the self like lust, greed , etc

Dishonesty to one self ...  this according to me is one killing force of the modern society, or this ultra modern society. More than what i can talk about others, i face this very blatantly and very overtly every day. We are forced to be dishonest to our self. We do several things that we do not want to do or believe otherwise. Each one of us can give several examples to our self as to why do we involve in the dishonesty of the self. Basically we are forced to follow a system that is not alright to us,  as we are compelled by needs, of which money is most determinant factor.  We follow people and agree to them knowing that they do not deserve to be there. It can be a politician, a parent, a teacher, a boss, a management etc. We just keep compromising for the fear of losing something that we keep getting for sustenance. In the process we become dishonest to our self without being conscious or accepting the fact. One way to test this,  is that, if we are able to sleep well, eat well and not feel guilty or uncomfortable with ourselves, then we are not dishonest. 

The only way to be happy is not by achieving something or having something or working to attain something but being happy with one self. This state will ensure that you derive more happiness eating a corn stick than eating something exotic in an expensive place. You will sleep well on floor than in an AC and comfortable room. Being happy with one self is to be honest with one self and this will only happen if we know our self. Spirituality is not beyond this point and this cannot be challenged. But the catch in getting there is very difficult and hence several schools, thoughts, processes and methods to learn.

CONTRADICTIONS... Oh my god, this is the order of the day these days. What we think, should be what we mean, what we mean should be what we talk and what we talk should be what we do in actions. Any deviation from this is contradiction and modern world seem to be allowing only deviations. At any given situation, we are able to think, say and act the same way, we would lived honestly in all situations. After that, there is no good and bad. We would have done justice to all moments and set the truthful trend in society. This is very much needed today.

Loss of the self comes from many reasons and one of them being the comparisons with someone or something. This can give endless suffering like dishonesty with oneself and contradictions.

Finally, like my daughters presentation at her school which highlighted among many points that she made, that language gives way to words and words to labels of emotions. If there is no labelling to our several emotions, then what remains is whether we are happy or sad. According to all scriptures and learning, happiness in only inside us and lets dig it out by being honest with the self, no matter what pain it might cause temporarily. 

We will only strive to be happy and not sad and stop thinking about so many words, feelings, thoughts as finally they come out because we know the language and use of words( no matter how loose it may be) . SO the point is to unlearn everything and become zero with the all the acquired knowledge. Difficult but not impossible and one way is to become a child in mind and heart.