Read this only if you can complete this....
( no body wants to hurt anyone )
I am not sure if a stranger can hurt us .. Strangers can inconvenience
us or at worst will trouble or not help us out if required . But only the known
and the loved ones can hurt us. Isn’t this a very big contradiction that loved
ones can hurt us ? Actually no one hurts
us without our own permission.. so says , sister shivani of BK & Sujatha potay and i completely endorse
with them.. But we then get hurt often and that leads to chaos in life, total negativity and affects all
around us and all about us . I thought about the enemy HURT in some detail and
what i arrived at, is useful for me and
so sharing in this space. This may benefit you too, not because u did not think
before on these or not that u do not know. But reading the known also might
help just like writing what i know might help me.
If a relationship hurts, or
someone u think is hurting you, or they say you are hurting them.. and if this
happens constantly, then there is something fundamentally wrong.. This needs to
be addressed in terms of A) Honesty in
the feelings 2) Trust in the
relationship 3) if its not spousal relationship , what is the meaning and
purpose of this relationship.... All of
these needs time , commitment and basic human respect to sit and analyse amongst you. If there is no time, respect or need to sit down and discuss, there is no
need for the relationship to continue either. Pretensions of goodness, false
adoption of values, humoungous self pity
will result in the absence of discussions of the matured kind.
Salute those who have the audacity to take the initiative of the break
up or wanting a solution rather than respecting the timid, evasive and escapist
kinds. I have no qualms in admitting that i was in the later category and i am
yet to come to the first catefory. But i
appreciate and respect the loudness in a relationship rather than the hiding
subtlety of the emotions .
Silence can be beautiful and most blissful between 2 people but the
absence of vibes of understanding and tolerance
of mere existence can be most killing and more painful than the death. I am
always remembering the song “ got to believe in magic , tell me how 2 people
find each other in a world full of strangers” listen to this and enjoy... Magic brings 2 people together and how does and why does that magic wane
? Communication is the key ... Verbal and non verbal. Verbal communication needs openness, guts,
willingness and just, simple ice break attitiude .. Non verbal requires complete honesty,
unconditionality, trust..
This combination of communication
will eliminate the hurt. Finally any love , respect is meant to let the other person live happily
and peacfully .. So where is the hurt coming from ? just see inside and let the
silence inside speak to you... The hurt is you and you hurt.. correct the self and
break all shackles of self imposed walls, ideas , thoughts, values and
fundas... I am attempting.. Writing this is sending this to the universe and to
people who read and matter and so its the COMMITMENT ... not a gyan
The beautiful life has no place for hurt. Know the hurt, address and control, alt delete from the system as soul can't carry hurt as its too heavy
