Saturday, 26 May 2012

JAADI'S ........ DO WE REMEMBER OR KNOW THEM?


Most of us like to remember the past glory and then we get into the nostalgic trip..We like to recollect and share with our friends, the glorious past, when we meet them. Everyone has many experiences and we all vouch that, the past was better and much happier. This is true in most cases as we are all running towards seeking and have forgotten to live and feel. Without going into more rigmarole, let me narrate an experience, a recollection and a good nostalgia. 

Just few days ago, precisely on 22nd May, in the morning at around 8.30 am, i was coming back after dropping my nephew to take his college bus. I saw a cycle with 4 Jaadi’s. I couldn’t believe my eyes.. Jaadi’s and selling at door step? Jaadi’s are the jars in which pickles are stored with white clothes tightly tied. The sight took me back to 35 years down the memory lane. We were a big joint family with 9 kids and 9 adults residing in kanda swamy lane , sultan bazaar. We had a quite huge home and summer was spent all at home with no television, no ipad/ipod, games, PC, mobiles etc. But it was all fun and happiness, right from playing with tamarind seeds in the afternoon to looking at stars for long and sleeping in the open terrace in the night with transistor playing hindi film songs on vividh bharathi after hawa mahal.

Of many things that excited in summer was the making of pickles. One month was spent in this. Firstly, the discussions among adults on various aspects of it to planning to getting each thing done at home to budgeting and all that was lots of excitement. There were 4 types of pickes and one sweet murabba made in huge quantities. The mirchi powder, the cumin seeds powder and methi powder weren’t brought straight from the market. They were brought as raw material and powdered at home manually in those special big stony structures. The spicy flavour would engulf the home and then the actual next day of pickles making, was when the kids could participate. The mangoes were cut into pieces by a muscular guy hired in advance and who was in great demand and his precision of cutting them rhythmically and also in fast speed would often baffle me. He used to be very efficient and did it with alacrity. After that, wiping each piece and removing the layer from the seedy portion was kid’s job. We would all sit and do it in great joy and competition. 

Then the ladies including grandmothers would all make a huge plan and discussion and get into the long laborious process for more than half a day and put pickles. That night the dinner was usually only the rasam and curd rice as the women would get dog tired. There was no thought or the option of eating out at all. Then we would wait for the third day after pickles were made , when the senior lady of home would have early bath and remove those lovely divine jaadi’s and mix them and take out little quantity in smaller jars. I couldn’t wait for long and used to revel very quickly. Bathing also seemed long to wait to eat that ummmm pickles. The entire week from then was freaking out on pickles with just about everything.. be it rice, chappati, upma, poha or whatever..
The jaadi’s seemed to have had real life and they were properly protected and taken care of. They were huge and bulky and were an important part of our life. No knowledge of calories nor apprehension or pretension and just pure joy and indulgence of eating them to the heartfelt. Subsequently the use of those big jars.. Jaadi’s came down and so is the eating of pickles. This is, in a way, unfortunate.  These days , People buy pickles straight from the market and they even  don’t need to store. I wonder who would have bought those jaadi’s on 22nd may?? or was he over ambitious. 

But i decided not to compromise and i have been eating maagaya, tokku and avakaya in good doses and have increased my walking speed and added little of jogging and in summer, anyway the calorie burning is faster. No wonder pickles are made in summer and hats off to all the native wisdom which is so full of scientific approach. Its better to eat these pickles than eating junk food which is not of Indian origin. And eating pickles also cures of many alimentary canal related problems if taken in right doses. One should know how to burn what we eat rather than get panicky and not eat. Wow jaadi’s and wow pickles. What is life after all without some native indulgence??? 

The disintegration of joint families have eroded jaadi culture and how i wish now that i had stopped that guy and bought them and spoke to him just to encourage... How many empathize with me? Or remember, like and know these full of life jaadi’s...

Friday, 4 May 2012

PAIN MANAGEMENT

Pain according to me is the shift from normal, happy state of being and that something which causes disturbance inside us and can be a factor leading to depression or other forms of this illness. This is completely avoidable as we are not born to suffer or lead a life of negativity. Then why do we get involved in pain of different kinds? Who is the villian? is this  not avoidable?

The villian is the self and we get into the pain because we love it and want it . Other wise why else would we allow something like pain to get the better of us or conquer us? So what gives us pain and why do we welcome it so often? Just thought about this for quite some time and hence writing it down here.

What are the types of pain and how do they cause suffering in us ? One of the biggest pain that is caused is  by comparisions.  Others salary, somebody's home, may be even wife, car, job and just about everything which is not ours causes us lot of suffering. Basically, because most of us do not know what we want in life. How much of what gives us happiness is unknown and that leads us to compare and feel the pain. If somebody's aim is to settle down with the 2 bed room decent apartment and he or she gets it and still they are un happy, the reason is the comparision and not knowing what they want.

The list is endless.. On a simple term, if we just spend time with ourselves for few minutes every day in the morning and make points on what we want for the day and what will make us happy and then check at the end of the day, we will have few reasons to be unhappy. But this does not happen. It takes just a minute and any thing to be happy and it takes everything and all the things to be unhappy in life.

A jilted lover suffers not because he has lost his sweet heart but because of the pride being hurt. Hence it is not about the want but the attitude of not having got which causes misery. When the parents know that their kids are going to get married and go away, why does the life collapse for them? when the beloved go away on a holiday for a long time, why does everything seem lost and meaning less?  In all the cases, the happiness is always placed outside us while we just need to ensure that it stays happy and comfortable within us.

Stay with in you, keeping talk to your self, love the self most, and let every need and want be purely for the self .. Then , we all discover that, the pain , misery or the suffering never ever comes anywhere near us. Here we do not talk about egoist or altruistic... The matter is all about being in control about the self with the self.